Friday, 17 May 2019

Sightseeing in Singapore - Sunday Morning

Sightseeing in Singapore - Sunday Morning

Well, it was interesting to be back in Singapore - the last time I was here was in 2001, when we all went out to see Uncle John and Aunt Marguerite, and we stopped off on the way to Brisbane, and again, on the journey back to England. It was a much more relaxing way to travel!

After a hectic and emotional week in Brisbane, it felt weird to have a day with only rest and relaxation on the agenda. I still felt guilty at having left Mum at home, but I knew she was being very well cared for whilst we were away; I missed Uncle John, and not being able to visit him very day, but Wendy was very philosophical and said we had done our very best, and he was certainly a lot more cheerful now he had seen us! With that in mind, we had only ourselves to please, and considered the list we had made, of things we wanted to do.

Wendy said we should book the Duck Tour first, and make sure we were in a good position in the queue, well in advance of the departure time, so that we could get a front seat.

First, though, we had breakfast - I had ordered room service again, and it was brought up right on time, and exactly what we had ordered. Well-fed and rested, we set off on our itinerary for the day.

I don't mind hot and humid - growing up in Dar-es-Salaam accustomed me to that - but in Singapore, if you don't want to brave the heat on the street, there are underground air-conditioned malls to walk through.

A few steps outside the hotel took us to Suntec City, and into the cool of the mall; a few brief steps outside again led us to the Duck Tour office.

And Donald Duck was always my favourite cartoon character!


After buying our tickets for a tour starting in a couple of hours, it was back to the next item on the agenda, a walk round the Fountain of Wealth. As the fountain plays, people walk clockwise round the fountain, trailing their hand in the water, and make a wish - reminiscent of Trevi Fountain in Rome: throw in three coins, and it is promised you will return!



Wendy and me trying our luck at
The Fountain of Wealth
Wendy had discovered a large supermarket called Giant(!) where she could buy Lux soap in many different fragrances than you can find in England; we stocked up, and then it was time for the grand Duck Tour.

We timed it perfectly, and bagged our front seats; the tour was such a treat, and we enjoyed every moment, from the start of the DKW trundling along the streets, to the moment when we became a boat and splashed into Marina Bay. The bay is filled with fresh water, and supplies Singapore with its drinking water; it was also lovely and cool as we sailed past all the tourist attractions, including the beautiful lotus-shaped Art and Science Museum, and the impressive Marina Bay Sands Hotel.



Art and Science Museum
Marina Bay Sands Hotel 


Friday, 10 May 2019

Heading Home - Singapore


Heading Home - Singapore

Saturday, 30 March, found us up very early. We got to the airport in good time, checked in, and caught our flight.

My goodness, it was a bumpy trip! The food was enough to tide me over, and I watched yet another film. I don't see a film for years, and suddenly, as a member of a captive audience on a flight, I have now seen three Oscar winning films. Clearly, to keep up with all the new-release movies, I shall have to make more long-distance flights.

We landed at Changi safely, and went through passport control; both Wendy and I got a stamp in our passports. I chatted to the lady officer for a couple of minutes; I suspect not many passengers have time to smile, let alone say hello. She asked me how our flight had been? and when I admitted it had been a bit bumpy, she was very sympathetic.

Usually, Wendy uses the underground train to travel from Changi to the hotel, but this time there were two of us, which made hiring a taxi worthwhile. The driver was waiting for us, which was quite a treat; However, when Wendy noticed the Hertz Car Rental office was situated right by the taxi pick up point, she said, "Next time, I'll hire a car!"

It was a pleasant ride to the Pan Pacific; although I wasn't quite as tired as Wendy, it was good to arrive at the hotel, and Wendy was greeted like an old friend.




The receptionists remembered her - of course it had only been a couple of weeks since her last stay there - and we had a beautiful room on the 26th floor, with fine views.

Bird's eye view from the 26th floor
Wendy knows Singapore like the back of her hand, and pointed out places of interest.

We unpacked very quickly and settled in, but then the tiredness really kicked in, and we decided to ring room service and have dinner in our room. Normally, I'd always prefer to eat in the restaurant - if something has been missed from what you've ordered, it's easy to ask the waiter for it; but our meal was delivered very swiftly, beautifully presented, and exactly what we had asked for: Minestrone soups, Margarita pizza, the usual tea for two and extra pot of hot water, hot toast, rolls, and lashings of butter - too delicious! 

Although Raffles Hotel is still closed for refurbishment, the Long Bar is now open; after dinner, I felt refreshed, so I asked Wendy if she would like to go there, but she was so exhausted, she was not up for a fairly short walk, even with the promise of a Singapore Sling as a reward.

Instead, we made a list of things to do the next day:

1) Book a "duck" tour
2) Walk round the Fountain of Wealth
3) Giant - a supermarket to buy Lux soap (in fragrances not available in England)
4) Take the "duck" tour
5) The Long Bar
6) Raffles' souvenir shop (That, at least, is already open!)
7) A shoe shop
8) Have dinner
9) Visit Super Tree Grove for the light show.

And on Monday, weather permitting, we would go on the Singapore Wheel.













Thursday, 9 May 2019

More Golden Moments On Our Travels (4)


More Golden Moments On Our Travels (4)

Friday, 29 March found us up early and keen to find the new hospital - St Vincent's was closer to the centre of Brisbane, so it didn't take us long to get there.

We were told Uncle John was up on the third floor, in Bed 15; walking in to his room, we found the light was off, and he was fast asleep. He had slipped down the bed, which meant that although he isn't as tall as he used to be when he was young, his feet were right against the end of the bed, and his knees were bent and scrunched up.

Having looked after Mum for such a long time, we knew it wasn't a good idea for him to be left like that, so we put the light on, and said "Good morning, Uncle John!"

With that, he opened his eyes and was wide awake.

"Hello," he said, looking really happy to see us.

We were concerned, because we could also smell urine. We pressed the call button and a nurse came very quickly, and said Uncle John would be taken for a shower; this was just as well, because when they got Uncle John up, he was soaked, and so were the sheets.

Things moved quickly then; we gave the nurse Uncle John's clean clothes and he went for his shower; the bed was made with fresh sheets, and the nurses said they would speak to his son about washing his clothes.

Presently Uncle John was back in bed and we could enjoy our time with him; we also took more photographs, and a couple of videos - Uncle John was very happy to reminisce, and it was lovely to get him talking about things he has done in his life.

The physiotherapist came to see him and helped him to use a walker for a little way around the bed and back. Uncle John is certainly not accustomed to using one of these - it's taken him a while a accept he might need to use a stick! - but he persevered, and realised that to progress, he has to get the hang of moving the walker forward and then stepping in to it.

We also saw one of the Social Workers, and explained again, why we would like to be told how Uncle John is. His records had not been sent through from Princess Alexandra Hospital, so the Social Worker asked Uncle John directly, if he was happy for us to be named as family members to be contacted. Once Uncle John had given his consent, Wendy wrote out all our contact details: addresses, phone numbers and e-mail addresses, and these should now be on his file.

We stayed with Uncle John for as long as we could. He was very positive, and said the food was good - his lunch also arrived, and we could see he really enjoyed it - but at last it was time for us to leave and get ready for the start of our journey home, early tomorrow morning.

Wendy and Uncle John in St Vincent's Hospital

It was so hard to leave Uncle John; he knows how much we love him, and will miss him! We had bought him a codeword puzzle book - he used to love solving those, when he was with us in England - and we gave him the writing pad and envelopes, all stamped, and self-addressed back home to us, and a pen. We showed the nurse what we'd done, and she said she would try to encourage him to write to us.

I gave him a big hug and kiss first, and told him we loved him; then it was Wendy's turn, and I could see Uncle John's face over her shoulder, his eyes filled up with tears.

As she hugged him, Wendy also said something very prescient: "See you next time!" and now that we know he may have some longer time to live than the doctors first thought, this will give Wendy the chance to fly back to Brisbane in June, and she will indeed see him again.

It was such an emotional time. I was so happy to have seen Uncle John, sad to be going away, and yet knowing I had to get back to Mum. It was really hard to feel so torn.

Wendy, ever practical, said, "Let's go to Sizzlers for lunch!"

It was a good idea to return to Forest Lake; after we had eaten, we went for a walk by the lake, and fed the ducks, coots and the black swan.



Back at the apartment, we got packed and prepared for the morning. Still in positive mode, Wendy said it would be nice to have a ride on the catamaran, and sail up and down the river; it was a really great idea, with the salt in the air on your face, and the breeze in your hair - the catamaran gets up to speeds of about 40 miles per hour - it's a wonderful way to blow away the cobwebs! Wendy has done all this before, and pointed out all the places of interest.



We saw the paddle steamer plying its trade on the river, where Wendy once took Uncle John for dinner whilst they enjoyed the river cruise. Sadly, the next time she booked, they had changed from offering a proper dinner with waitress service, to providing only a buffet meal, which didn't fit the bill - Uncle John would not have been happy standing in a queue, and trying to collect the food himself.



I was really impressed with the lighting on the buildings, and the Story Bridge was quite beautiful - bathed this evening in purple.



We walked back to the apartment and after supper, had an early night, ready for a very early start in the morning, and our flight to Singapore.


Wednesday, 8 May 2019

My Birthday - 28 March 2019

My Birthday - 28 March 2019

My birthday started off really well, with a lovely phone call from home. It was late evening in England and although Mum sounded a bit distracted, she Mum was still awake, and it was so good to hear her. She said the carers would be along presently, to get her to bed. (I had another call from Mum later in the day; she was much more awake, and sang Happy Birthday down the line to me).

When Wendy was up, she gave me my first present of the day, a cat key ring; I was very happy to have it! and as soon as we had eaten breakfast, we were off to Princess Alexandra Hospital. We took the birthday cakes with us, and Uncle John was delighted to see us.

One of the nurses told us Uncle John will be moving later today, to St Vincent's Hospital. This is a private hospital, but they have a bed in the palliative care ward available for him; all beds in the other hospitals are full. (There was a headline in the Courier Mail, reporting that, apart from the children's hospital, there was not a single bed free in any Brisbane hospital. The NHS is not alone in having challenges to supply sufficient beds).

Another nurse brought us plates, a knife and forks, so that I could cut my birthday cake and share it out. Wendy and Uncle John sang Happy Birthday to me; Uncle John chose which cake we should eat first, and helped me to cut it. The nurses and reception staff couldn't join in at the time, so I left the second cake for them to enjoy when they had a break, in order celebrate my birthday with me.

Wendy and Uncle John had been in cahoots about getting a birthday card for him to give to me. I was banished to the waiting area outside the ward for a little while, giving Uncle John a chance to write something for me, and I was so chuffed to have this very special birthday card.

Uncle John and me - 28 March 2019
Whilst we all chatted away, Wendy recorded more videos and photographs; Uncle John has done so much, and it's very interesting to hear about his life, and have some record of it.

Uncle John was then helped into the bathroom to have a shower; when he was finished, the nurse came to us, carrying a bag of clothes. Some were things he had been wearing, when he was first taken ill, and taken to Logan Hospital, including a pair of shorts, and one of his lovely silky shirts that he enjoys wearing. Wendy and I were shocked that no-one had seen fit to get him some nice clean things to put on, and thanked goodness we had thought to buy a couple more pairs of pyjamas for him! The nurse said of course there are laundry facilities at the hospital, but usually the family take patients' clothes home and wash them. Clearly this hadn't been done for Uncle John, so we said we would take it; we had a washing machine in the apartment, a tumble dryer, an iron and an ironing board, so it would be easy for us to return it to him in the morning.

We were told Uncle John would be transferred to St Vincent's Hospital that afternoon; he might have to wait for some time in the discharge lounge, but in the end, he was able to have his lunch and was then transferred by ambulance, which went very smoothly.

Back at the apartment, we washed Uncle John's clothes, tumble dried and aired them; later that evening, I ironed everything, and thought what a simple, easy job it was, to do something like that for him.

We checked the parcel with the rug securely packed inside: strongly held in the two boxes? Check. Boxes firmly held together with strong parcel tape? Check. Brown paper carefully wrapped around every inch of the boxes? Check. No string left around the parcel? Double check!!

The Receptionist had kindly printed off all the documents and labels for us, and after another, final check that everything was in order, we took the parcel downstairs to await collection by TNT; it would be kept safely behind the desk, until the courier collected it on Friday, between 9.00 a.m. and 6.00 p.m.

Then we were ready for the drive out of Brisbane, to see Jane and Stuart, our wonderful friends from South Africa.

My Mum's dearest friend in Durban was a lovely lady called Mary; they were neighbours in Stanbury Court, and Mum and Grandma grew very close to Mary and her husband Tony. When my Grandma died in 1985, Mary was such a great support to Mum, both emotionally and practically, and after Mum returned to England, we all wrote to each other and always kept in touch. Jane is one of Mary's children; she is married to Stuart, and they settled in Australia some years ago. We met up once before, in London, but that was such a long time ago, I certainly wasn't going to miss the chance of seeing them both again now! They live a couple of hours' drive away from the centre of Brisbane; Wendy and Uncle John have visited Jane and Stuart before, so Wendy knows the way very well, and we were soon pulling up outside their house.

From the moment they opened their front door, the warmth of their welcome enveloped us; it was so good to see them again.

Jane, Alex and Stuart
We had such a happy reunion; Jane had made me a special birthday cake, and we had a wonderful evening, talking about Durban, people we knew, and what we had all being doing since we last saw each other.


The time passed all too quickly; Jane and Stuart understood we had a long drive back to the city, and so reluctantly we said our goodbyes. We all hope it won't be very long until we can meet again.

What a splendid birthday I enjoyed!








Saturday, 4 May 2019

More Golden Moments On Our Travels (3)

More Golden Moments On Our Travels (3)

During all the time we were in Brisbane, visiting Uncle John, and taking trips to places he and Wendy know so well, we managed to keep an eye on the time in England, and rang home to speak to Mum on a regular basis. We were very lucky in that on most occasions we picked our moments just right, and could have a quick chat with her. Mostly it was just to tell her we were fine, and she told us she was having her breakfast; but at least we could keep in touch.

On the Wednesday, 27 March, we were back bright and early at the hospital. When we walked into the ward, there were two members of the Palliative Care team present, and they told us Uncle John would be moved very soon, to St Vincent's, a private hospital. Uncle John was in pretty good form, and took this news in his stride.

After they left, we took the opportunity to have brilliant conversations with Uncle John about when we were all in East Africa in the 1950s. He remembered, when he, Marguerite and Johnny left Kenya, they had a little 2CV car, and he drove all the way across Africa - first to Victoria Falls in what was then Southern Rhodesia, then across and through to South Africa, and down to the Cape, where they took a ship back to the UK from Cape Town.

He also recalled the time when they spent a year or two, in Romania; Uncle John worked for a big company that made paper, and every weekend the family would go to either the Black Sea, or one of the lakes, to relax. If they went to a restaurant for dinner, a gypsy violinist would come and serenade them - happy memories for Uncle John!

Whilst we talked and listened to Uncle John, Wendy took some beautiful photographs, and also made some videos of our conversations. It is amazing what facilities are available on very small cameras!

Presently, a nurse came along and said Uncle John was due to have a chest X-ray, and we asked if we could go with him? We could, so we tagged along with the porter and stayed with him whilst he waited in the X-ray Department; after the X-ray had been done, we sat with him until the porter returned to take him back to the ward. Uncle John had become quite nervous; he was shaking, and a bit shivery, and we were very glad we were there to reassure him, and tell him he was fine. There was a "warming cupboard," where they kept nice hot blankets, so we got a couple and wrapped them around Uncle John; he felt much better for that. Shortly after we were back on the ward, the phlebotomist came along and took umpteen phials of blood! (I felt like paraphrasing those wonderful lines from Tony Hancock's sketch, "The Blood Donor": "A pint?!....Why, that's very nearly an armful!")

We gave Uncle John another pair of pyjamas we'd bought for him - these are flannelette, and a bit warmer than the cotton ones he'd been wearing.

Uncle John enjoyed his lunch, and then was ready for a nap; we bought him a copy of the Courier Mail, and after he had settled down, Wendy and I left, to get something to eat ourselves. We promised to be back first thing in the morning.

We also did more shopping! When Wendy was with Uncle John in February, they had gone to a large store, Harvey Norman, to get him a new shaver. On the way through to the electrical department, they passed through the carpet and rug section; Wendy had seen a very beautiful rug, in graduated shades of red and orange, and now she was keen to see if it was still there, and for me to see it, too.

And indeed, it was there! These rugs came in three sizes - large, small, and - the "Goldilocks size" - medium - "just right" for what Wendy wanted. The large one had been sold that morning; the small one was of no interest to Wendy, but the medium rug was still there; just waiting for Wendy to buy it. Of course we realised we would have to get it back home to England somehow; clearly, it wouldn't fit in our suitcase! The salesman was extremely helpful; he got it measured and weighed, and we reckoned we could post it back to England without too much difficulty.

We went shopping for our dinner, and bought a couple of birthday cakes to take with us to the hospital tomorrow.

Wendy then took me for a relaxing drive round some of the places where Uncle John, Marguerite and Johnny had lived in Brisbane. We saw Wembley Road, and then went to Marsden. It felt strangely sad to think I won't ever see Uncle John in his Unit; Wendy, who has spent so much time with him at both Forest Lake and Marsden, felt it even more keenly.

We went back up to Mount Coot-tha once again, before driving back to the apartment and making our dinner. After that, we tackled the problem of wrapping up the rug! Wendy went to an office supplies store to buy two cardboard boxes, brown paper, heavy duty parcel tape, Sellotape and string. Nothing if not enterprising, we put the two boxes together lengthways, which then made them long enough to take the rug. For a bit of padding, we added the throw, and the cushion, and crumpled newspaper.

I have never been a Girl Guide, but my Mum was, and she taught me how to wrap up parcels with string, and secure the knots properly. Because the box was now quite long, and heavy enough, it was very unwieldy! but together, Wendy and I managed to do it.

The moral of this story is, you should always check not only the weight limits (we were fine with those), but the size of the parcel as well. When we measured it, it was too big to be sent home by parcel post.

Ah. Wendy was so disappointed, and quite prepared to return the rug to Harvey Norman, but then we had another electric light bulb moment: Find a courier. Wendy checked what couriers were available, and came up with TNT; we were further reassured, because one of the receptionists on the desk downstairs told us he often sends parcels back home by TNT, and they always arrive safely.

This time, we checked the criteria extremely carefully. Everything was in order, until we discovered string is not accepted! (And after all my efforts to get the parcel so beautifully tied up with string...!)

I unwound the string.  My Grandma, always thrifty, advocated never to cut string; she would wind it carefully into a ball, to be used again.

 It took me longer to get the stuff off, than it took me to put it on!

After that, we went to bed. And did I have nightmares about brown paper packages, tied up with strings? Mercifully, I did not.



Thursday, 2 May 2019

More Golden Moments On Our Travels (2)

More Golden Moments On Our Travels (2)

Brisbane

We spent every day with Uncle John, enjoying our time with him.

That first day, Monday, 25 March, Wendy produced some Hot Cross Buns from Waitress, and one of the nurses on the ward recognised them immediately!

"I lived in England for a while," she told us, "and I used to get those from Waitrose, too!"

She brought us a plate, a knife and butter, and we prepared one for Uncle John - Wendy knows how much he loves these buns, because when she was with him earlier this month, she took several packets with her! - and he really tucked in.

Uncle John and Waitrose Hot Cross Buns!

Uncle John and Wendy
We didn't want to encroach with any other visitors Uncle John might have, and by mid-afternoon, when he had had his lunch, he was ready for a sleep. We promised we'd be back again, first thing in the morning.

Wendy said she wanted to show me some of the places she always went to when she was with Uncle John, and we decided we would do something each day, so we could tell Uncle John where we had been, and share the sight-seeing with him.

Wendy said, "Let's go to Forest Lake - we'll have dinner at Sizzlers, which Uncle John loves."

Wendy at Forest Lake Hotel


Wendy is never knowingly without wheels!
I could also see why Uncle John enjoys eating there; Wendy had a steak, I had fish and chips, with the crunchiest, crispiest chips I've had in a long time. The Manager and waitress both remembered Wendy and Uncle John having meals in the restaurant, and were sorry to hear he was ill.

When Uncle John lived in Forest Lake, it was so convenient for him; he could walk from his unit to the shopping area, to Coles and Woolworths, and Target for other things like furnishings and clothes. Whilst we were looking round Target, we bought Uncle John another pair of pyjamas, and Wendy saw a heart cushion, covered in sequins, that took her fancy; we got that, and a throw for her sofa.

After that, we parked up by the lake, and walked down to the water's edge; all the ducks, coots, and a black swan came up, clearly hoping for a few titbits! We decided next time we'd return with some bread to feed them.

We were still catching up on a bit of jet lag, and it was nice to get back to the apartment for supper.

The following day, Tuesday, found Uncle John quite tired; we all thought the excitement from yesterday probably had something to do with it. We stayed chatting all morning; Wendy bought him a copy of the Courier Mail, and a banana - he loves bananas - and he has always loved having a newspaper! but after lunch, he was ready for an afternoon sleep.

Uncle John mentioned his watch was still not wearable - Wendy remembered that a few weeks ago she had tried to fix the strap for him, but it's a metal one, and she could not get it to fasten around his wrist. We took the watch with us, and said we'd do our best to get it fixed; if it couldn't be mended, we would buy a new strap for him.

Using the wonders of modern science on her mobile phone, Wendy found a watch repairer a few minutes' drive from the hospital. We handed it over, and the man said he'd do his best. Ten minutes later, he was back, with the metal strap fixed! The length of the metal strap had simply not been long enough for Uncle John to put it round his wrist and close the clasp properly; now, everything had been eased and adjusted, and it worked perfectly. Whilst the watchmaker was talking to us, I detected another accent overlaying the semi-Australian English one, and asked him where he came from? It turned out he was from near Aachen, so we spent a pleasant five minutes chatting away in German. I never miss the chance for some practice, and it just shows what a small world it is.

Wendy then showed me round all the shops in the centre of Brisbane. I had an extravagant moment - having seen an outfit in a dress shop near McDonalds, I went in and tried it on. It fitted perfectly, so I bought it. Hey ho. I need something new for my next performance, or when we go to The Ritz!

We had an idea that Uncle John might want to write to us at some point, and we searched for a packet of notelets. These did not seem to be available, so we settled for a small writing pad and envelopes; Wendy got two sheets and an envelope weighed at the Post Office, and bought stamps to cover the postage for half a dozen letters back to us in England.

Wendy prepared chicken for our dinner; after a little rest, she said as it was a fine evening, we could drive to Mount Coot-tha, which has panoramic views over the city. She has taken Uncle John up there  many times, and it would be good if I could say how much I enjoyed it, too! It's really beautiful and a lovely place to go after the heat of the day.

View from Mount Coot-tha
26 March 2019
Still feeling energetic, Wendy suggested we drive back to town and go for a ride on the Brisbane Wheel - a great idea! We arrived at a time when there were hardly any other passengers; it was so quiet, we had five rotations. That trip was a great end to a good evening.



We also got in touch with Jane and Stuart, our dear friends from South Africa, who now live about 1 1/2 hours' drive from Brisbane. We arranged to visit them on Thursday evening, which was something more to look forward to!


Wednesday, 1 May 2019

Going The Extra Mile


Going The Extra Mile

Mum had had a couple of days when she had hardly slept: during the first night, I went in at 2.30 a.m., and she was still awake, after which she was up and doing all day; the following night, Mum was still awake at 1.30 a.m., which was when I gave in and went to bed myself. Mum had been awake for over 36 hours, so it came as no surprise when she slept right through the next morning call, and was still fast asleep when the ladies came back for the lunch call at 12.30. 

Mum surfaced at 3.30; the ladies got her up and took her to the bathroom to wash her hands, and settled her back in the chair. I got the dinner on, and in the meantime, we washed her face, and she was able to brush her teeth as usual. 

It was a very difficult time, as Mum then became very hyper. She decided she could walk, and was determined to "get up and go." Of course, she can't walk, but we were so worried that in her firm belief she could go places by herself, she'd succeed in launching herself off the chair, and end up on the floor, so one of us stayed with her all the time. 

She made a couple of dozen attempts to stand up; each time she tried, she would realise she couldn't really manage to walk after all, so she would sit down; it seemed she couldn't remember that her actions from just a minute or two ago, had not been successful. The she started demanding the table be brought closer to her, so that she could press down on it, to help her to stand. All explanations that the table was not built for that purpose, and was just a lightweight one on wheels that we use for her dinner, fell on deaf ears. She became quite abusive, and insistent that that was all she needed. It was shades of "the stupid stool" all over again, from the time when she used a very low, three-legged stool to help her to walk, instead of a purpose-built walker - with he the disastrous result of her falling over the stool, and breaking her ankle. We didn't want anything like that to happen again, so we tried distraction, we tried the t.v., we tried to engage her in a magazine (she's going through a phase of tearing out all the pages!) but nothing seemed to work. 

I just got on with preparing and serving Mum's dinner and, at last, that seemed to work. She ate well, took her pills and had a nice cup of tea, and when the ladies returned at 7.30, she went with them to the bathroom. 

We carried on with supper - a slice of coconut cake and more tea, all of which went down as well, but Mum was still very agitated. Instead of turning them over one at a time like she usually does, Mum was sort of scrabbling at the pages of the magazine, with very "spiky" fingers - held out stiffly, and not being very effective in ripping pages out!

The ladies returned at 9.45, and succeeded in getting Mum back to bed, but throughout all this time, Mum was shouting for her mother, and for her brother, Johnny-Boy, to help her. One of the ladies, Sydney, who knows Mum so well, talked to her, and soothed her. Once Mum was lying down, Sydney knelt beside her, and in a very soft voice kept reassuring her, that they would find her Mum in the morning; but for now, it was time to rest, and her Mum needed to sleep as well. 

Because Sydney was so gentle, and spoke so softly, Mum had to stop shouting so that she could hear what Sydney was saying! and gradually Mum began to agree to all Sydney's suggestions, and accepted she'd wait until the morning. 

After all Sydney's gentle, patient, persuasion, in the end Mum did get off to sleep. Sydney did not rush Mum, and we knew she would take all the time it needed, to make sure Mum was calm and happy. It is such a comfort to know that, when Mum is having one of her episodes, we aren't alone - and that is really "going the extra mile!"